Firstly, I want you to know it’s possible!
One of the most possible and inevitable things in life is moving on from someone you once loved.
I have done it a thousand times, sadly😢- Here’s how to detach from someone you love.
Step 1: No Contact ❌
You cannot start the game without rolling the dice. This is the dice.
Take out your phone and block! I mean it, just block! Remove from every social media platform or anywhere else you or they can contact.
You will always fall back, or they will always pull you back. I know that’s the addiction, right? But if you want to stop being the prey they hunt, roll the dice.
With time, this is what’s going to help you heal the most. You won’t see their life, you won’t think of them that often, and you will see that life without them isn’t that bad.
As Maddy said, “Out of sight, out of mind.”
Step 2: Sob 😭
This is what most of us avoid. Sobbing.
This is the train to the healing station.
You gotta cry! Cry because it’s over. Or cry because it never began. Cry for all that you went through.
I lock myself in my room, close the light, and cry in the dark for days. I listen to sad music to feel even worse. People think how stupid of her to just break down, but later I come out healed, and I move on while they are still depressed deep inside for a guy that left them 3 years ago.
Trust me, it’s exhilarating to let it all out!
Do this for days, for weeks, or as long as you need. But your tears will be gone soon, and you will feel normal very fast.
Step 3: Self Love & Care 🧖♀️
You have been sobbing for days. You probably didn’t brush your teeth or bathe, or wash your hair. Didn’t have the appetite to eat? Or ate like a bear? even looked like a bear? Your room is all messy and unclean?
It’s time to fix all that. It’s time to shower some love!
Clean up your room and clean up yourself. Put on Music! Sad, happy, dancing, whatever you want. Care for yourself. You have been hurt. You have been deprived of love. Give it to yourself!
What I do exactly – I will bathe with music on, order my comfort food (cheesy spaghetti and choco lava), and sit in my clean room with a laptop in front of me playing my favorite breakup movie, and do my skin care. Even light a scented candle. I am hungry just thinking about it lol.
Step 4: F.R.I.E.N.D.S 👯♀️
Not the TV Show, but watching it helps.
A constant thing in my life is my friends. These 3 kids I game with every night. When I am with them, for those few hours, I forget. I forget about the sadness or the darkness or the emptiness buried inside me. I laugh, I smile, I make jokes, I roast them.
It’s a reminder that life can be amazing with the right people. It makes you understand that the ones who left were wrong. They didn’t bring any value to your existence.
Get out of the house and have some fun! Anything that you can enjoy for a few hours.
How To Be Happy Alone? – Read Now – Because at the end of the day, happiness isn’t about having people around you. It’s about having you—and knowing that’s enough.
Step 5: Do Absolutely Weird Things! 💃
I am sure nobody, no article, no YouTube video will tell you this. This is another one of my things.
Sometimes I lie down on the floor. I just lay there on the cold floor. It feels refreshing. It gives me main character vibes xd. I dance! When no one is home, I dance around the house, jumping on the sofa, the bed, in front of the mirror, everywhere.
I order different flavors of ice cream. I mix chocolate with strawberry or mango with raspberry and try them all. I write stupid stuff on my bedroom wall.
Step 6: Ground Yourself With Journalling 💭
I was told to journal my feelings for more than half of my life by some magazines and articles, or I saw it in movies. But I always thought it must be useless. Until I tried once. It changed my life.
Writing down your feelings, your absolutely darkest, deepest, cruelest feelings on paper, not caring about your writing, just scribbling down every thought that comes, is so rewarding.
When you overthink, just write what you feel. I feel sad because….., I think I can never move on….., I hate my life……, I hate that person…….
After that, it will be out of your system, and you will feel light. You will be grounded.
Step 7: Time Does Heal ⏳
“And so I wait, wait for the time to heal my pain and raise me to my feet once again – so that I can start a new path, my own path, the one that will make me whole again” – Jack Canfield
Let time heal you….
Note from Author
Be glad for the experience. You’ve got to feel love, happiness, sadness, heartbreak, attachment, disappointment, vulnerability, emptiness, fulfillment, and so much more.
Life is not about the places you go, but about the things you feel and how strongly you feel them.
I hope my blog “How to Detach from Someone You Love” was able to help and heal you. If you tried any of these steps and they helped, comment down below and let me know!
